Stress Relief Using Fear Setting as a Management Technique

Originally proposed by Tim Ferris, Fear Setting is a stress relief technique that is easy to use and can have a huge impact on managing your stress levels.

Stress Relief

Did you know that taking a look at your fears can help reduce your stress levels?

Fear setting is an amazing stress relief tool because it can help you get over almost any kind of fear or doubt in your mind. Usually prescribed by self-help gurus and productivity experts as a means to get over the fears associated with taking chances.

For instance, if you are someone who is thinking about branching out and starting their own business, you might find that the fear of failure is holding you back. Fear Setting could help overcome those doubts allowing you to take “a leap of faith” on your future and on your dreams.

But fear setting has other uses too. Specifically, it can be a highly powerful tool for overcoming doubts and fears that might be causing you stress. If you’re afraid of losing your job, of your relationship ending, or of your credit score becoming so bad that you can’t get a loan… this can cause you underlying chronic stress.

What is Fear Setting and how do I use it for stress relief?

Fear Setting is a unique stress relief technique that takes strong cues from cognitive behavioral therapy. The idea is pretty simple; you take a look at the things you’re afraid of, then break them down in a way that helps you to determine if those fears are based in reality or emotion.

What you will very often find is that your fears aren’t as bad as you think they are.  When you realize this, there’s a lot less to be afraid of and you can focus on what really matters.

3 Simple Steps to use Fear Setting as a stress management technique:

  1. Start by writing down all your current fears and stresses. Perhaps you’re afraid of losing your job. Maybe you’re afraid of your partner walking out on you.
  2. Now take a look at each one individually and assess on a case-by-case basis by rating them on a scale of 1-10.  Think about each fear and be realistic about how likely it is to happen.
  3. Come up with a contigincy plan for each fear.

Following the 3 steps above will help you to determine if your fears are likely to cause you problems  or if you are worrying for nothing.

Now let’s apply those steps using two different scenarios:

Scenario 1

  • step 1: You missed a deadline for work and you’re stressed out because you’re afraid of being fired.
  • step 2: Ask yourself how likely are you really to lose your job? You realize it’s actually illegal to fire someone without a good reason so you rate this fear a 4.
  • step 3: What is the worst that could happen if you did loose your job? Get a roommate? Move back home for a little while? Better yet, realize it’s an opportunity to get a job that you really love and pays more!

Scenario 2

  • step 1: You’ve been arguing with your partner a lot lately and it’s adding a huge amount of stress to your life.
  • step 2: Ask yourself what are you really afraid of? An underlying fear may be that you are afraid they may leave you. Remind yourself that no one ever broke up over normal arguments. Would you leave them if your situations were reversed? You rate this fear a 3.
  • step 3: What is the worst that could happen if they did leave? you did loose your job? Get a roommate? Move back home for a little while? Even better, realize it’s an opportunity to get a better paying job that you really love!

The bottom line… Most of our fears are inflated in our minds. Once we learn this, they become much more manageable! When you are logical about your fears and look at them with the proper perspective it’s very likely that your stress levels will start to subside. Want more?  Learn How to Use Reiki for Stress Relief.